eyes to eyes / göz göze gelmek

Look Into My Eyes!

In communication it is very important to look at the eyes of the one (human/animal) you are talking with but of course it is not limited only with the talking one! When somebody is talking to you, as a listener you must look at that persons eyes ; so that you can give the signal that you pay attention and importance to each other. I really find it disrespectfully, when someone keeps looking around while i'm talking!  I feel like most of the time, during our conversation, that person doesn't listen to me or gives only 10% of his/her attention to me! and this feeling is so uncomfortable that at some point i lose my concentration!!

There are different kinds of communicators in the society:

First of all, the ones that totally ignore looking at you!

I totally don't have any idea if they have been threatened by their family or someone, when they were children, that " if you look at the eyes who you are talking with, you will be cursed till death or there are a lot of MEDUSAs all around so, you should be carefull!"!! This type really pisses me of and after the second attempt of the conversation, i directly give up and never talk with that person again! 

Secondly, the ones that are fixing their eyes to your eyes!!
This is as disturbing as the ones that never look at you! You feel like you are under surveillance constantly as Mr. Anderson watches Neo (for who doesn't know what i'm talking about; it is the movie Matrix). When i come across a person like this, after some time i start to feel like there's something on my face, for example crumb or the worst: mucus!!!  aaaaaa!!!! :D I also start to itch my nose, put my hand on my face, then my hand starts a trip between my cheeks and chin.....so i start a cycle of discomfort!

Lastly, i actually can't put these people at the category of the communicators. I mean, it is not right to categorize them because they are born like this. What am i talking about? I'm talking about the skew-eyed  and cross-eyes people:

Skew-eyed

Cross-eyed

My intention is absolutely not to make fun of these people; in contrary, i just wanna explain how i feel and suffer  when i talk with them! I have the difficulty to choose which eye to look at and of course you can't ask the person "which of your eye do you prefer that i look at?". If you ask, i'm pretty sure that he/she immediately goes away or slap you right away!! So i start a struggle by myself of jumping the look to one eye to the other and also start asking questions if she/he also suffers! Sometime later i get used to it and choose one eye for long term like 15 min.! and then switch! Naturally, when i reach 1 hour of conversation, i start to feel the pressure and distress on my chest as a result of my empathy!! I unconsciously divide my mind into two:
One side keeps listening and responding to the person and the other side keeps thinking about the difficulties this person having, making questions about how he/she thinks or reacts or understands if the person he/she is talking, having difficulties!!!
I don't know if you also feel the same or at least agree to some of my opinions but i just can't quit!, it is my nature.

There's a last thing that i want to share with you, which is very ridiculous!! But i can assure you that i'm not the only one! How do i know? Because a friend of mine wrote it on her facebook status! :))) 

When i talk with a person - doesn't matter if this person a very dear friend, relative, neighbour or a professor -  hours and hours, eventually start to confuse which eye to look at! and become like a cross-eyed!!!  

Naturally, we can't focus on both eyes to the person, it's impossible and even though i know that, i just keep experiencing in an exaggerated way! 0_0

Well, my dear readers, i wish you nice GLANCES! :)))

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